Michelle Williams There's no enemy in the auditioning process.Everybody wants you to be the right person when you walk in the room.Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point – that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. When you start lookin’ around for something good to take the place of the bad, as a general rule you can find it.Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy. There is that order that's searching to be found but, I think, it's not as if everything is going to be automatic. It's a very fortunate situation and not everyone has that. There's the right person, or right people, for each other.Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security.
To avoid becoming a "statistic," try to internalize these 10 insights. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to change after they're married... " So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it." Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them.Here are just some of the signs that let you know that it’s time to make a run for it! You act differently around him and it’s not in a positive way. You spend a lot of your time feel edgy, upset, confused, uncertain, insecure – pretty much negative. You’re not really bothered one way or another about him, or the relationship. You’re with him because you’re afraid of being ‘alone’. In order for the relationship to work, you need to cut yourself off from family and friends. You both want very different things on key points that are important to you both, but you’re holding out hope that one day he’ll come round to your way of thinking. Whether it’s figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you. You like the potential of what he could be, rather than the reality of what he is. You’re dating ‘beneath’ yourself so that you think that you can control him and the direction of the relationship. He finds it difficult to make basic efforts such as calling and showing up when he says that he will. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.