One of my friends wrote, "I've had a taste for something all day long but couldn't figure out what...until I realized it was your lips! If you're too shy, or if you haven't been dating your guy long enough to send something that racy, a cute, "How's the handsomest guy I know? Unless you're Barack Obama, there's no need for this.It's like saying, "I'm just hoping someone more interesting and/or important tries to reach me." Keep it in your bag and check it during a trip to the ladies' room.Like any technology, cell phones are a tool that can be immensely helpful but also destructive, depending on how they’re used. Przybylski and Netta Weinstein of the University of Essex showed that our phones can hurt our close relationships.Amazingly, they found that simply having a phone nearby, without even checking it, can be detrimental to our attempts at interpersonal connection.…Przybylski and Weinstein asked pairs of strangers to discuss a moderately intimate topic…Some pairs engaged in their discussion with a nondescript cell phone nearby, whereas other pairs conversed while a pocket notebook lay nearby…The pairs who chatted in the presence of the cell phone reported lower relationship quality and less closeness.…[In a follow-up study] the presence of the cell phone had no effect on relationship quality, trust, and empathy, but only if the pair discussed the casual topic.
Don’t let bad habits get in the way of your love life. When you’re on a date, especially a first date, the person you are with should always take precedence over calls you want to make or receive. If you do take the call at the dinner table, keep it as brief as possible and avoid “cell yell.” Use your regular conversational tone when speaking on your phone. Keep your phone concealed and remember to silence the ringtone. It’s permissible to pull out your phone three times on a date.But when you're on the phone, try to keep competing stimuli to a minimum.It's so annoying when you're talking to a guy and it's obvious that he's only half-listening because he's simultaneously watching TV or checking the latest headlines.Elizabeth faced this conflict without text messaging, television, and the computer to contend with. Darcy had tried expressing his feelings in a text message (and no, I’m not suggesting a modern-day update to this classic). Nowadays, technology is aiding in the demise of many relationships before they even get started.The romanticism in a text message would have been lost, sending Elizabeth into the arms of (gasp! Because the cell phone, computer, and other electronics are such a big part of people’s lives, they become a big part of the dating scheme.