It starts with a few missed calls and you think, “No big deal, he’s just busy!
The answer is somewhat obvious but counter-intuitive- let him have some space.
You feel like it is finally happening: you have met the man of your dreams. And so the cycle begins- distance, hurt feelings, questions, tears, distance.
(And by that, we really just fixate.) While responding with worrisome questions feels like the right response, many men feel pestered or cornered.
You’re meeting, you’re talking, you’re hanging, you’re enjoying his company. He’s seen women like you freak out over and over again, so he just deals with it. So you look at him and say maybe we slept together too early. Now it’s 8.00pm and the neurotic you comes kicking right back and you’re like I haven’t heard from him all day long. He’s not going to sit there in a car or sit there at a rest stop with you and say, well gee, I don’t know if I can really date you right now. He’s going to have to retire from the seduction streak he’s been on.
Falling in love can make him feel vulnerable and distance is sometimes a natural response to that fear of closeness.
You feel close to him and you feel attracted to him and you’d like to kiss him and then all of a sudden you look at him and say I don’t know what I want right now. The reason you met him and you find him so dynamic is because he’s probably got his testosterone levels up and his hormones are kicking in.
Maybe you tell him something one afternoon when you’re hanging out.
This seems counter-intuitive and frightening, since it feels like you might lose him. Here’s how to give him the space he needs while handling your own vulnerable feelings so that he’ll naturally want to come close all by himself.
Drifting away is completely natural for a man, even if he’s in love with you.